She had been married for over a decade and shared four children with her husband. Their story started young—she was just 19, he was 24. Early in the marriage, she discovered he had a hidden pornography addiction, something he had denied before they married. The first signs surfaced just a few months in when she found explicit content on his phone. He insisted it was a one-time mistake, blaming it on a friend’s influence during a gaming session. But within days, she caught him again—this time on social media—and he finally admitted to watching pornography regularly, even before their wedding.
Hoping for a fresh start, the couple moved states to distance themselves from other life pressures, including family issues. But the move didn’t solve their problems. Counseling attempts followed—multiple therapists over the years—and even a couple who served as accountability partners. Still, progress was limited. One counselor, claiming to be Christian, wrongly blamed her for his addiction, leading her to stop attending altogether.
In 2016, they separated. During that time, he confessed to calling a woman from his past—someone newly married at the time. His story didn’t quite make sense, and even years later, the memory of that moment left her questioning what truly happened. Although she tried to move forward, the pain lingered. Trust, once broken, never fully healed.
Now, years later, despite ongoing counseling, the weight of the past continues to affect their relationship. Intimacy is deeply strained, and though he claims to have been free from pornography since 2022, the past lies make it hard for her to fully believe. Still, they remain together—for their children, for the shared life they’ve built, and for her faith.
He is a devoted father, and together they manage the practical parts of life well. But the emotional and relational wounds remain. It’s a long road, and though there have been signs of change, the scars of betrayal continue to shape their journey.